I
really love a wedding. I really really do.
I
love the romance, the excitement, the optimism, the spectacle and the party. I
wish all the best to everyone who marries.
That
said, here are my new rules:
If
it is your second or third wedding and I was there for the first, or the second
wedding don’t invite me!
If
I was at your first or second wedding do not ask me for a gift/charity
contribution!
Didn’t
I give you a present for your last wedding, and your last wedding shower?
Am
I being too harsh?
Here
are the exceptions:
Your
spouse died.
You
have been divorced for over 20 years.
I
was not at any of your prior weddings.
What
about family and friends’ children on marriage number 2? I am sorry if the
first marriage turned out to be a starter marriage but the same rules apply:
good wishes, don’t ask me to attend or give a gift.
If
you are having just a party to celebrate your marriage with no gifts, I enjoy a
party as much as the next woman. If I am invited I will wish you all the best
in person or in a note if I cannot attend.
Do
you have rules for the wedding season?
12 comments:
I don't have that kind of rules but it's probably because i don't know anyone who is getting married the second or third time. I'm just too young.
I'm not a big fan of rules in general. Of any kind. Go with the heart, is what I say.
I have been invited to 2 weddings for the second marriages and both are under 35! Mistakes happen.
Thanks Carol for your comments.
I think when it comes to most social situations we all have to decide what we're comfortable with and act accordingly. The problems I've seen is when people behave differently in like situations. That never goes over well.
Yes Karen. I love the optimism of a wedding.
I hear you! Especially if there are engagement showers, bridal showers, and showers for the 2nd weddings...
Thanks Ava, good to know I am not alone in this!
I personally hate the philosophy - "you have to at least gift the price of your dinner" What? I'll bring my own food then.
Val
PS I feel your frustration.
Thanks Val. I don't understand that philosophy either!
I'm with you, Val! :) I think it would depend on the situation. If it was a good friend or member of the family, I would suck it up and - sigh - buy yet another gift. Everyone else is on their own!
I agree Diane, sigh!
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