Every year with wedding season I look forward to wedding invitations and of course the blessed event. Mostly I look forward to the gifts on the bridal/wedding registry. I love to look over the items the bride and groom have chosen to start their lives together. I envy, yes I covet their registry. Regretfully when I married I did not register. It was the late 1970’s and weddings were no big deals and registries were out of fashion, subsequently I was out of luck!
When I say weddings were not a big deal, I mean among my friends. One of my friends made her own wedding dress out of blue gingham! When it was done she didn’t like it and had 3 days to put together a wedding dress which turned out to be a blouse and skirt. Another friend got married at sunrise in a field populated by cows. It was stinky, cold and many of the guests were hung over or had not gone to sleep or never made it to the event. Indeed it was a different time.
When looking over registries if I see china and a service of 12 as “would love”, I think this couple means to take over entertaining for the holidays. If I see a canoe or a kayak or bike, I think why not? The marriage may not last but maybe someone will have some fun memories. If I see dish towels and pot holders I think the couple as practical or they already have everything because this is not their first rodeo.
My never registered friends and I think that it would be nice to have a bridal shower every 10 years or so. New towels, sheets, everyday dishes, serving pieces, etc. would be nice. I found a bowl set in my camping supplies that I repurposed to everyday use since I don’t see a new wedding registry in my future.
I have filled out several surveys that ask the question “What would you say to your younger self?” I always say I would register for gifts for my wedding. This may sound shallow and really the question is pleading for advice and wisdom from the more mature person. Hey, I know my younger self would have appreciated the gifts, nice quality dishes, china, pots and pans, flatware, and small appliances, I know the older me certainly would!
Any blue gingham dresses in the back of your closet? Any wedding registry regrets?
5 comments:
Well I would have wedding registry regrets except I married a guy that actually appreciates fine china and crystal. At the time I was thinking, china, really isn't that cliche? However he insisted, and now I'm really happy we have it.
He is a keeper. A man who enjoys fine things in life like you!
This makes me laugh...my hubby always says that managing the registry was a full time job for me. So many people bought gifts that were not on the registry, and that meant a big list of returns and credits to buy pieces on the registry....
I think a shower every 10 years is a FABULOUS idea...I just bought new every day dishes and need a new coffee maker. Would be great to receive that as a gift - Rachel
Thanks Rachel, this brings up the debate to buy off the registry or not. Obviously I like to but I know others who don't or have a "wedding gift" they give or those that give cash.
I do know of a couple who threw a 25th aniversary party and they registered for gifts!
i dont regret any registry yet and still love to buy some gifts for my friends with help of their registries.
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